Cynthia's Story

I used to drive myself crazy just trying to push my way through it, by believing that I needed to accomplish a certain amount for the day. It was either I didn’t do enough that day and or the constant nagging myself that I can always do more. And though those maybe true concepts for a lot of us, I challenge you to look at this from the perspective that this way of thinking is very counterproductive.

The truth is, you are more closer to a person that is burning all there resources on spinning wheels thinking your approaching positive end results, than actually coming close to achieving good ones.

The reason I say this, is because there will always be “Things to Do”. You will always have that appointment to make, and that meeting at work. You will always have children that need you, and you will always have yourself to take care of as well as the others you have chosen too. There is nothing wrong with being a good productive person, that takes care of things.

It’s your approach to how your taking care of those things, and what it all amounts too. By asking ourselves a few simple questions, you will have found if you are closer to making strides, or feeling closer to becoming completely overwhelmed, overworked, stressed, and what I believe is worse, left with nothing to give anymore (not even to yourself).

So let’s not allow that to happen. Ask yourself these questions:

1. Is this task, super Urgent>
2. Can this task, wait another day, or later on.
3. Do I have the ENERGY TO COMMIT to this task, event.
4. Do I have the means, (money, resources,) to provide to this ?
5. Does it help me, my family, or add value to my life?
6. Is saying yes to this task, event, going to put me in a deficit in any of these categories?

Sometimes, things come up, that we want so badly to help, but we haven’t even asked ourselves if we are able too. It is so important to make sure that before we add to committing to more in our lives that we are truly not going to be dragging ourselves to do said task.

We all have really big hearts and want to take on the world, at the expense of hurting ourselves in the long run. This doesn’t help anybody. Not everything is URGENT, not every task will need to be completed right now. All things take a certain amount of energy, and some things will require our resources, like our finances to get done.

A lot of times we think that doing more will add to our family, but in a lot of ways it pushes family time aside, and they end up being placed on the back burner, and yes, saying yes, to anything, is putting you in a deficit in another area of your life, because your saying no something else much more valuable.

If we were to be very very pro active on the things we chose to work on in our lives, and focus on what really truly matters, only a small of our to-dos are actually on it.

You would find, that where you truly win, is in life’s little but big impacts when you consider how many of the items on your to dos actually will count towards a end result that you are trying to get.

No matter what it is your doing, consider first taking a step back and asking yourself searching from within if this is really something you should be doing.

I know I need to practice this in my own personal life. And I know I have many friends and family members that could use this advise, because I see too often that we don’t account how much precious time we are wasting by spending it on worrying about doing the extra extra. You are enough, and what you give is enough. You are where you are supposed to be, and life can become a lot less stressful if we begin to shift our perspective that we change the way we view what we do, and that is how you can win with life’s little big impacts.